From the moment of birth their will is in full force! Discipline should not be looked at as something negative in nature. My goal is not to produce “perfect” robotic children. My goal is to help shape them into mature, responsible human beings who display self control and respect for others. We do expect them to obey our instructions because we are wiser than they are. And aside from the aforementioned stated goals, it also our responsibility to protect them from harm as much as possible while determining what natural consequence for their poor decisions they should bear. For us, discipline and love are not antithetical; discipline is not done to the child, it is done for the child because we love them. We are not wholly rigid in our childrearing. We constantly observe and evaluate their maturity, and introduce new and realistic boundaries and responsibilities. We encounter setbacks, failures and disappointments. However raising them in an atmosphere of honesty and security (by meeting their needs of love, trust, affection and discipline), and respecting their dignity and worth allows us to delight in their progress and successes, which far outweighs any unacceptable behavior. I imagine one of the greatest experiences in life is watching your child blossom into a kind, productive, intelligent, responsible, unique adult. Of course, we lean on our faith to get us through the tough job of parenting.
Edit to remove sanctimonious impression (I hope!)...