I've read all the articles and It has me thinking but I haven't yet formulated my own reply…
But I didn't want you to think that everyone was ignoring your post.
I grew up reading Edgar Rice Burroughs and Robert E Howard.
I believed that "Civilized Behavior" was Effeminate and Barbarism was Masculine.
My own attempt to act like a "Barbarian" involved self consciously being a lout…
Slouching, belching, using non-standard English, eschewing anything that even remotely smacked of "Culture" or "Refinent"—what have you.
In retrospect, much of this was misdirected.
100% agreement, projecting masculine energy is not just "barbarism" (a hint of this is good - never ignore our primitive natures).
If I had a "Do-Over" I'd change a number of things.
Did anyone watch the brief TV series "Outlaw Dove: The Outlaw Years"? Colonel Mosby would be a good template to try to emulate.
Not familiar with this but I would suggest that something similar would be "Hell on Wheels" with the main former southern fighter Cullen Bohannon (played by Anson Mount) a re-interpritation of the older Clint Eastwood westerns.
Men should never ever never be Overtly Sexual around women.
I am beginning to think that we may actually agree on this issue - because it is subjective I would ask for specifics.
We are a dimorphic species, so in effect we cannot (with a healthy fit body) ever exclude our overt sexuality, add "masculine energy" and good grooming and personal cleanliness and well fitting clothes and
magic - oozing male sexiness...
Sending a text picture of your "junk" -
bad form.
Learning the subtle art of female communication and using that to escalate your sexual innuendo and energy -
good form.
I know about ZAP, but nothing makes me WANT to backhand someone so much as hearing a man tell a woman that he has "NEEDS".
You don't have "Needs" you inbred trailer trash. You have WANTS.
You NEED Vitamin C. Go without long enough and your gums will bleed and your teeth will fall out.
But
women can? as in is is justified to be stoic and suffer if there is no social equal. (This is a bigger issue than one would think BTW - more later).
Yet I agree - not need, desire yes but there is no "need" - in some circles this is called "thirst" and is a sign of a weak male personality.
Going without waking sexual release will simply cause more wet dreams.
That is a teenage problem, it does not persist.
Ask yourself:
"Would this have been appropriate behavior in Upper Class Victorian Circles?" Then why do you want to set your sights on a lessor creed?
If you are talking about "preferred victorian social expectations" some may be OK at best - the actual behavior of the Victorian "upper class" (read that as oligarchical "white" trash as far as I perceive them) is far from ideal.
Self improvement for yourself
FIRST much follows.